Dare to Risk: The Payoffs Are Awesome!
Risk taking is the key to breaking out of your stuck thinking and behavior. It challenges your concept of reality.
Some of you spend a tremendous amount of time in your head, creating additional dilemmas that aren't necessary.
You are a snowballer: an over analyzer who thinks about the negative aspects of a challenge, to the point of talking yourself out of doing something that is to your benefit. And, the payoff of doing that is, that you relinquish your personal power to fear. And, fear isn't based in reality; it lives in your head.
Habituating the fear of the unknown and self-doubt is the hallmarks of a person who resists risk taking.
"To try is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard of life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel change, grow, live, and love."
I have had this quote posted in my home for the past 5 years, and each time I read it, I am reminded that I must do more, challenge myself more, learn more, and be more.
My hope is that in sharing this with you, that you will invite yourself to look at your life and fearlessly evaluate where you could step up to the plate and be a bigger player in your life.
Every time you shrink from facing what is real, holding yourself back from taking a chance to change any area of your life, and choosing to live only within the confines of your comfort zone, you add another brick to your temple of fear and regret.
These two emotions, fear and regret, are the greatest drivers of living a mediocre life.
George Bernard Shaw said, "A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing."
Those of you who take risks aren't afraid of the result. Why? Because not only do you have a desire to improve the quality of your life but also you'd rather know what the result is, then camp out in the unknown. Risk takers believe that, whatever the result, they can handle it.
Only those who risk going too far can know how far they can go.
A client recently came to me to talk about how stressed she was at work. Her boss is a severe micro-manager, is highly anxious, and enormously critical.
She is a bright, talented young woman who has an excellent work ethic, is internally driven to do her job well, and understands that something must be done to stop the emotional stress that has now manifested into physical illness.
On her own, she has thought about talking with her boss, but has hesitated moving forward with that conversation. She agreed that she has allowed herself to fall prey to the fear of the unknown and as a result, convinced herself that she is incapable of dealing with the outcome.
Until we clearly identified how she was struggling, talked about what to say, established the mindset she needs to shift into so that she can have a successful conversation, and examined all the possible outcomes, only then, was she able to move visualize a resolution and acknowledge the tremendous amount of courage and strength that already resides within her.
We dissected each part of her worry around this and once she re-defined this problem as "doable", she immediately decided to talk to her boss the next day; and with great success.
She took a risk and the risk paid off; she now enjoys going to work again, and in addition, has improved the level of communication and partnership she has with her boss, and, has a "win" under her belt.
You might think that you are shielding yourself from pain and suffering because you avoid taking a risk; but you really don't.
In fact, the opposite occurs. Only you will know what you stopped short of accomplishing.
And, people don't forget missed opportunities; they regret them.
There's no safety or peace of mind in that, is there?
Every time you take action, regardless of the outcome, you can be certain that you will see yourself in a more positive way. You will consider yourself more capable, and you will find it easier give yourself the green light to take more risks in the future.
When you choose to take a risk, challenging your doubtful beliefs, you will be rewarded with the experience of finding out what lives in the grey space of the "unknown" and you fully dis-empower all of the sabotaging thoughts that have kept you stuck and fearful.
You prove to yourself that you are more powerful than you had imagined, because you took a risk.
I believe in you and I want you to believe in yourself.
Go ahead. Take that risk.
The payoffs are awesome!!!
In love and light, Janis www.cohenfamilycounseling.com