Are You Skipping Yet?
Every child knows how to skip. It's automatic. It's totally liberating and fun.
Kids inherently know how to skip because they are born into "now."
Outside of extreme circumstances where you didn't have the luxury of being a kid, most of you know what I am talking about when I refer to a child being in the "now."
There is an innocence in being a child.
We all had it.
We still do.
We just forgot how to "be" it.
Regardless of what happens in life, re-connecting with your child state matters.
You can be silly. You can giggle. You can imagine.
You can be anything. And you can dress up too!
Or, you can put a cape on and save the world, like your superheros on T.V.
As adults, we don't give ourselves permission to be in our child state very often.
Others will judge you.
Others will disapprove.
And, still, others will not get it at all, because they are so far removed from being in the "now."
My nieces and nephews laugh at me because I get silly a lot.
I can't help it. I need to do that.
I need to laugh and regress.
Sometimes, they get embarrassed if I sing too loud in a public place, or break out dancing. (They will actually walk away from me until I have stopped! So, I stop on purpose, only to begin again when they return! HA!)
While I feel just as comfortable being in my adult state as I do my child state, I conducted a "secret mission", so to speak, with some of my friends.
We were walking together and I asked them to break out of their walk and to skip with me.
They looked at me like I was crazy.
Some of them looked around to see who might witness the silly behavior.
I asked again, "C'mon, y'all! Let's just skip down the sidewalk for a little bit!"
And we skipped.
It was exhilarating and we all giggled like little girls who just did something sneaky.
We were a bit out of breath, but everyone was beaming.
We connected with that sweet spot of ourselves that didn't care about anything.
We just became kids again.
No worries in that moment.
Take some time to do something that epitomizes your child state and that brings you joy and silliness.
The world can be a serious place. Too serious, at times.
It is important to be silly and to give yourself the white flag to regress and have fun.
So, are you skipping yet?
In love and light, Janis www.cohenfamilycounseling.com