Using What God Gave You
"What you are is God's gift to you; what you do with yourself is your gift to God." (Danish Proverb) Powerful, huh? Your greatest gift to yourself is you.
How you live your life, is the gift you give back to Spirit.
While we have all been created in the image of God, each of us is unique; harboring unseen and specific talents unlike any other.
How do you find out what gifts you have to give back to others and to Spirit?
In other words, "What is your life purpose and how do you serve and contribute to the world?"
Many of you believe that you do not have enough insight to figure out what you are supposed to do with your life.
Having worked with many clients who have convinced themselves that someone else knows the answer to the question, therein lies the struggle.
No one knows your strengths better than you. And, no one can determine your purpose here on earth outside of you. The unfolding of insight comes from Spirit's messages and your ability to coagulate them, ingest them and act upon them.
Life is your school and you are here to learn from it.
Some of you spend your time attempting to serve the world in ways that really don't fit for you; being someone who you are not, in an attempt to try to find who you really are.
Until you have that ah-ha moment, or a "tipping point" as I have mentioned before, many of you really don't know why you have been put on this earth.
In extreme circumstances, people have found their higher purpose spurting out from the loss of a loved one or a tragic personal experience.
A very dear friend of mine has a 21 year old daughter who has been struggling with a secret.
A secret that she finally shared last year.
She was raped when she was 13.
And, she didn't tell anyone until 7 years later.
She kept this secret, along with the shame, pain, anger, and humiliation that came with it, buried in her heart.
She rebelled in many ways over the years.
Once the secret was released, a different type of brutality arose.
It was time that she addressed what happened to her.
Feeling utterly powerless, rageful, and pained, she slithered through the process of talking to therapists about her experience. Her efforts weren't always honest and her behavior towards her mother and siblings was disrespectful and defiant.
It was clear to her family that her pain was intolerable, both emotionally and pyschologically.
She didn't know how to deal with her innocence being stolen and she couldn't take her power back.
And, then one day, she decided to tell her story.... to the world!
She released a silent four-minute video explaining what being 13 meant for her.
It was powerful. It was raw. It was honest.
Her pain was evident, but her strength was even more pronounced.
Perhaps, out of this awful experience, she might transform her pain into power and help others who have experienced the same thing or something similar.
Perhaps, had she never experienced this horrific robbery of her innocence, she might never have uncovered how powerful she really is over her life and, how, ultimately, she can give back to the world and God in the way that would create the greatest ripples.
We rarely see God's purpose in pain or failure or embarrassment while it is happening.
With time, though, lessons become clear and "only in hindsight do we understand how God intended a problem for good."(Rick Warren)
It is not necessary to experience something painful to clarify your greater purpose.
But oddly enough, it happens this way for many people.
You might be someone who, through a hobby or passion, makes this world a better place, simply because you love what you do and you spread the joy of loving something beyond yourself to others; teaching them how to accept love, find love, and give love.
Sometimes our life purpose can take its shape in one way and then, as we grow, its shape changes to accommodate new awareness, unearthed talents, and divinely timed learing.
Ask yourself: "In what capacity have I seen other people respond favorably to me?"
You have dozens of hidden abilities and gifts that you don't even know you have because you haven't ever tried them out.
Would you believe that people in their 70's and 80's find out that they were good at something that they never knew they were good at?
All it takes is the desire to find out.
You will never know what you are good at until you try.
And in your efforts to find out what you are good at, NEVER compare yourself to others for two reasons: 1. You will always find someone who does a better job than you, knows more than you, and has more than you and you will become discouraged. 2. Or, you will find someone who isn't capable of what you are capable, and you will find that your ego will take hold of you and make you believe that you are better than they are.
You must remember, that even though your talents and gifts are unique and special, you are no better or worse than anyone else.
You are you and there is no judgement around that fact.
You will know that you are on the right path when your mind is clear and concise about your day, when you feel that the decisions and actions that you have feel light, bright, and right and, when you get that awesome feeling of love and fullfillment that only giving to others brings
Whatever your gift, it matters.
There is someone out there who needs what you have to offer; someone who hasn't figured out their next step, until you come along.
You deserve to be your best.
The world deserves to receive your best.
So, what gift do you have to give back and how are you going to give it?
The world is waiting......
In love and light, Janis www.cohenfamilycounseling.com